Once you are into femininity, you may notice that you become softer and more delicate, and that at some point you realize you are confused about which things you should be focused on. Like, maybe career, or making money, or maybe buying things. Even if you are not into femininity, you might still be confused about your goals.
Born and Raised
Since the early childhood both girls and boys are being raised with the important idea that we all should have goals in life, and we should strive to reach them. Otherwise you risk of becoming nobody and your life will be dull and miserable. Or something like that. So we got used to this idea and try our best to succeed, both men and women. We think that if we achieve something, people will respect and value us.
Which is correct, but just for men. I mean, women can be respected too but the idea of achieving something to have the result is very good for boys and men, not for girls and women. This intention of achievements develops strong will, determination, discipline, ability to master oneself. Those are all great qualities that make a real man out of a boy.
Not a real woman out of a girl.
“Be a Warrior”
There is a hormone called “dopamine”. It is a neurotransmitter that the brain uses for assessment and motivation helping to remember actions that are important for survival and the continuation of the genus. It gives us great enthusiasm so that we can achieve more and more. And so many people, including women, think that once they reach this or that, happiness will come. However, dopamine is not responsible for actual happiness. It only gives us this kick, a certain mood and motivation to help us reach the goal.
The energy that we all use to achieve a goal is that of the planet Mars, a very warrior-like planet. This energy is strong, bright, and rather destructive to help you remove obstacles from reaching your goal. But does it really sound like something woman like and feminine to you?.. Unfortunately, most if not all women are being raised to be “ready” for anything and be strong and independent. As if they are raised not to be ready for life but for the end of the world.
So all these women try to “be a warrior” and “ be ready” by getting all of degrees and educations, better prestigious or trendy ones so that they can compete with men and be equal, and compare who can earn more or who is smarter. This creates great respect for women from men. They do respect them – as colleagues, as maybe friends, as business partners. That is it. They don’t see them as women so they don’t respect them as women. Because these same men end up choosing a different type of woman to become their partner and wife, and mother of their children.
That explains why many businesswomen are so unhappy deep inside. Despite all of the goals that they reached, all of money they earned, all of the things they bought, they are unhappy. Why is that? Because happiness is the understanding of who you truly are, it is the knowledge of yourself and your own nature. It is about “What am I and what am I here for?”. If you are born a woman, use this amazing gift and use another type of energy for life, feminine energy. And have feminine goals.
Difference Between Man’s and Woman’s Goals
So what is the difference between masculine and feminine goals?
Masculine goals are results-oriented, mostly material. A goal has to have something tangible in the end: a house, a car, career, a certain amount of money, a certain amount of children, status and reputation. To reach these goals, he directs all of himself, his energy, his thoughts, his actions towards this one goal. He reaches the goal step by step, by going from point A to point B gradually, following a strict plan.
Feminine goals are state-oriented. That means when you try to make a decision about your next goal, think of how it makes you feel versus what you will get out of it. This is very important for a woman. Because the way you feel will motivate you, in a feminine way, to want more and to want correctly. A woman can reach the goal without having any idea on how to do it or any plan with steps. She just follows the flow, trusts the Universe. It is enough for her to just know the end result, and somehow she will find the way.
State of Happiness
Avoid using too much mind in this process, this is not our strongest part. We are very intuitive beings, we can feel things well in advance, we have inner knowledge inside of us. To know something we simply need to become quiet and tune in to our inner world, and try to listen our vibrations. Once you learn hearing them, you will know you are on the right path if you hear them inside.
Although most modern have goals like cars, money, career and degree, because we consider them more valuable in the modern world. Let me add – in the modern masculine, male-oriented world. And yes, they do have value there. However female goals look more like desires other than material things.
Your goal should bring you a very strong, special feeling of state. The most important part of the process is while you are trying to reach your goal, you should enjoy the process. For example, having money as a goal is not enough for woman. Goal is what she will do once she has it. What kind of state it can bring her when she has it, what emotions. This is the most important part.
It is not enough just to imagine it, but to FEEL what you feel when you have it. Whether it is joy, happiness, pleasure, uplifted mood, feel it with your whole being, as if you already have that. Once you catch this sensation, it will get imprinted in your every cell and will then attract, or create, what you want in your reality. A little of the law of attraction here. But really, this is a very feminine way of doing it.
Another important detail here is to avoid having dates or deadlines. What is more important is to simply feel that it comes true with perfect timing and in a perfect way. Once you can find yourself in this kind of state of magic, magic happens. So in reality, any of those material things could be feminine goals, as long as they bring your this state of happiness and joy and not stress and exhaustion.
Specific Feminine Goals
However, let’s look at some atypical but very feminine at their core goals that we can try to reach, while we are in the female body.
Beauty. This can be a wonderful goal because it has a result – our increased attractiveness. And additionally, our looks attract men, this is a given no matter what you think of it. So it is important for a man how a woman near him looks.
Relationships. This goal is a perfect example of the creation of the state. Meeting your true partner, improving relationships with your mother, becoming friends with your neighbors or simply making new friends are all very feminine goals. Additionally here is to learn taking into consideration other people’s feelings and interest.
Feminine arts. Long forgotten and rather unpopular, feminine arts are actually quite mystical and powerful. Learning how to dance, sing, how to cook and how to be crafty bring power to your feminine psyche. By doing these simple old-fashioned things, woman can transform the world around her. I may share more about this in the near future.
Cozy home. This goal is nothing but the state itself. Being able to create cozy home-like ambiance at the house, by playing with fabrics like curtains or table cloths, by choosing a specific set of plates, by decorating a guest bedroom to make guests feel like home, by creating a pretty laundry corner.
Finding pleasures of life. Feeling happy is very important not only for a woman but for all people around her. Because once we are happy, everyone else around us is automatically happy too. And vice versa (I encourage you to examine this next for the next week or two). So we have to allow ourselves various pleasures: weekends getaways, museums and theaters, movies, hiking in nature, biking or skiing, yoga and many many other enjoyable things.
Cultivating kindness. Kindness is a very feminine quality on its own, and if you are busy even cultivating it, it makes it your own feminine goal. It can be small things like planting flowers or trees anywhere, sharing your skills and knowledge at some free classes, helping your elder neighbor, give flowers or fruits to someone for free, make a compliment and or even just give a genuine smile. If you have the opportunity to do bigger kind things, it can be starting a charity or opening a new shelter.
So as we can see, feminine goals are not about dates and numbers really. The are about cozy home, happy people and children, carrying husband or partner, beautiful clothes and well cared hair and skin. If any of those things make you happy, make them your goals and those will be correct good goals for you. Because the most important element here is your state. The state of happiness, harmony and serenity. Reaching your feminine goals in a feminine way is basically about enjoying the journey and not the destination.