Modern world with its rules and conditions is not leaving enough space for femininity. Most people associate it with something unrealistic, something related to the world of art or music, and never a real life. Real life is about survival, competition and success. It is especially so in big cities.
That is why it is particularly hard to embody femininity and cultivate it daily for women who live in big cities. The energy of such place is usually very masculine, yang, and has almost nothing to do with fragility, beauty and tenderness. Women, in order to survive, have no other choice then to turn into men so that they can have jobs and respect. Sadly, but true.
However, if we think about it, it is actually not so hard, to stay feminine in such a rough environment. Femininity is within every woman since birth. All we need to do is to awaken it. Once you step into it, even if with just one little step, you find that your softness and feminine behavior transform the world around you. And suddenly, it becomes less and less harsh…
Here are a few simple steps to begin with. Try to make them a habit.
1. Ask men to help you
This is especially important for those women who got used to do it all by themselves. They need it the most. Make it a rule to ask a man for some help daily, whether it is your friend, acquaintance, co-worker, relative or your partner. It doesn’t matter, as long as it is a man. And of course you could have done it yourself, and maybe even better but it is not the point. The point is for you to LEARN how to ask help from men.
There can be plenty of examples here. You can ask them to carry heavy bags, to help figure out something with your computer or phone, to help with flat tire, to grab something from the higher shelf. Imagination is the limit. And make sure to pay attention to your mood right after that, and to the mood of men. You will see that strangers will suddenly turn into your knights in shining armors and you will be a fragile princess who doesn’t afraid to ask. This is an excellent exercise in femininity.
2. Healthy portion of selfishness
If you every tried to pay attention to a true lady, you may have noticed that her own interests are always a priority for her. No matter how many children, responsibilities or other duties she may have, she always has time for her own hobby, something she is passionate about, something that brings her true joy. This can be anything from arts and crafts, to reading books, going to museums or spending time alone. And women like that are not narcissists and selfish. They simply know the art of self-care. These things recharge and restore them, and inspire them to do even more things and take better care of their children.
Make it a rule and a habit to spoil yourself with something once in a while. Bring joy to yourself. Maybe start with making a list of things that bring you true joy. Maybe it is laying and listening to your favorite music? (And THAT’S IT). Maybe reading in complete loneliness? (And THAT’S IT). Maybe yoga or dancing? Whatever it is, find it and make sure to dedicate your time to it daily, at least 30-40 minutes. It is important to do it regularly, routine will also add additional joy to your feminine nature.
3. Pay attention to your speech
Although usually we don’t really pay attention to it but our speech says a lot about us. It is a reflection of our inner state, and we can influence it from the outside with our speech. So it works both ways.
It is probably hard for you to imagine a truly feminine woman that speaks too fast or too loud and curses left and right. Therefore, to get in tune with your femininity, try to speak slower and lower, and in short phrases. Only say something when you have something substantial to say and try to avoid filler words. Some psychologists suggest to imagine a crown on your head while you are in a conversation with someone. That corrects your manner of speech and just they way you hold yourself immediately, and will let you act and speak like a true regal person.
4. Stay creative
Any creativity is a true gem for women. It is her main source of energy, her “charging station”. It helps her keep the femininity no matter the age, or in our case, circumstances. Think of what kind of creativity you would like to be involved with. It can be any sort of crafting, painting, making origami, knitting, pottery, the options are endless. Dancing with a partner is a very good option too because it also lets you train your femininity with an additional layer – it reminds you that you are a woman who is gracious and who can graciously trust her male partner.
5. Upgrade your look
Take some time to analyze what you wear and maybe do some upgrades. Feminine style does not mean only pink dresses with ruffles. It is more important to be yourself while still being a woman. So finding your own unique style is another rule and habit to follow. It is important to experiment once in a while, to adjust it to your age or maybe new stage in life. So if you got used to wearing same things for years, maybe it is time to refresh things up and change something. It can also be a different hairstyle, not just clothes. Or maybe a new accent in accessories. It would be best to find someone professional help but asking your close friends can work too. However, dresses and skirts are still the best way to go, if we are talking femininity.
It is very hard to stay feminine with the crazy pace of the big city, no doubt. Lack of sleep, constant hustle, traffic, crowds of people, all of that can be very draining and does not help with you delicate feminine look. Meditation is a great tool to help you with that. It will literally help you keep your soul at peace and your mind in sanity. It will also help you stay more feminine as meditation lets you keep contact with your inner world.
Additionally, it truly helps combating the stress and fatigue, and it has been proven many times by many different scientists. The best type of meditation for woman is actually focusing on our lower belly versus the mind, if you really want to go deep into your feminine nature.
Those are some very simple steps, as you can see. And it is easy to implement in the crazy life of a big city. And remember, one step at a time and consistency will do miracles.
Stay feminine, lovelies, wherever you are!