Woman is a wonderful creature that can be anything and can do anything. With all of those possibilities though, there is only one thing that really matters for each woman. And it is this: her only true and necessary task in this life is to fill herself with energy. Filling with energy is literally the only thing every woman should be preoccupied with. All of the other things will happen much easier and with less amount of effort if we are filled with energy. I will not stop talking and writing about that.
A woman who lives in a man’s rhythm spends three times much more energy than man. Three! And of course, it depletes her incredibly because her woman’s duty is to feel, to sense and to perceive. We are different and we have different ways of interacting with this world, for the right reasons.
Difference Of Man and Woman
Man is powerful in decision making, it is true. The more he does it, the more powerful he becomes. Because the way his brain works is that he goes back to the past and looks at what happened last time, he looks at the past. The logic in him tells him what to do this time to avoid that, so past experience is very important for him. So in a way, man is more complicated here. This is also why he is very good about being in the present, he is always ready to think and to analyze what happens now, he is ready to move and to take action. He is always ready to fight and to win. This is when he feels accomplished. That is where his power is.
However, that is also where his weakness is. Because it is very hard for something unexpected to happen in such a logically built and structure based reality. In a man’s reality what truly exists is only something that can be understood, analyzed or done. Something that can be explained logically. And this is just how man functions.
Woman, on the other side, is a different creature obviously. Her domain and her power is in the area of psychological and emotional things. Feelings, sensations and pleasures of life are things where the true woman’s talent is. This is her gift, this is her power. Her whole physiology, psyche and energy is based on that. Woman is incredibly flexible by nature. She has a magical ability to sense tiny changes, to notice little details from different sides and angles. And perceive it all at once while receiving knowledge. This is how she learns and gains knowledge. This kind of knowledge is hard to explain logically or to express verbally. And additionally, woman’s mind can easily reaches the future and see what is coming.
Woman is initially connected with this wisdom of life, this wisdom is inside of her. It is like a life matrix – she feels it because she lives it. All of the Universal knowledge is already in her on the level of sensing. So she is able to take any state of being and turn it on, and use it where she needs to.
How To Exist Womanly
She is indeed able to. However it does not always happen. No one gave her the instruction on how to use this power and how to turn it on. Because everyone else grew up in a world full of men’s rhythms as well. Woman grew up in the world of action, words and man’s logic. So she simply does not know how it is, to exist womanly. And because of her very own natural ability to adapt to everything smoothly, she did exactly that and completely forgot her own natural way of being and perceiving the world. She even communicates with herself in a man’s way.
So how to exist womanly? How can we perceive the world as women, not men? Here are a few things we can do.
1. First and foremost, it is something I have already mentioned multiple times. We need to move the focus of our attention from head to womb. Or to our lower abdomen, choose whatever suits you. This is our one and only main spot to fill with energy. To compare, for men this spot is a head. If we live in our head, we live as men. If we live in our womb, we live as women. Pretty straight forward. If we live as men while being a woman by birth, that means all our subtle precious energy moves upwards, because we wouldn’t be able to function. And if we are not aware of this and of how to fill ourselves back up, depletion happens. That is why one of the most natural ways to fill ourselves with energy – breathing – should be done through the belly, for women.
2. We should change our internal rhythm. Our social life is pretty much male oriented, meaning the rhythm is fast, tensed, hustling. Everyone is hustling, right? This is the only way to get everything done. Woman who lives like this spends three times more energy. Remember? And that truly, really, very much depletes her, as a woman. Because her main duty is to sense, to feel and to perceive. Remember that too? And to feel anything you need to… slow down. You need to stop, take a breath and to be in the moment fully and completely. That is the only way to feel and to notice little details, right? So our natural correct rhythm is not fast. It is slow, like the water wave. Woman’s wave is her way to express the energy, delicate, flexible, flowy, adaptable. Just like the Life itself, shape-shifter.
3. We should also learn how to contemplate. This is a special type of vision when you not just look with a narrow tunnel vision, but when you see and look everything wider and bigger. You are not too focused, and you perceive everything: top, bottom, left and right. And one important condition here is to do it all with your brain being shut off. Without any judging or comparing. Just observing. Thus, this contemplation can be internal and external. With the internal one we can observe our inner state of being: how we feel, where we are, what is going on there. This is how we get some information about ourselves and our feelings.
And in order to be able to successfully observe the external, we need to first balance our internal. This is the trick. Once we can observe without judging what is happening inside of us, we can do it with the outside world. This is when we can learn to observe the world as it is, with all the details, and see it as the reflection of ourselves. That is when we can start noticing signs and hints from the Universe. Because it always talks to us, all the time. And it tells us the most sacred things, because this is the only thing it can tell. So learn to listen your inner silence. Wisdom comes from silence as an insight. While we observe the world around us, we learn about ourselves.
4. We should be able to feel our internal space. What is it exactly? Our internal space is not something flat like a 2D picture, it is exactly a hollow space that is very much 3D. This is the place where all the desires and dreams come from, all our feelings and sensations. Before we can verbally name them and describe them, the are already there, humming inside of us, making us alive. They are making us living breathing creatures. So this space is very sacred and magical. It is a true Holy Grail. Whatever happens inside of us will reflect itself on the outside as well. Learn to see what is happening there, and learn to name it. Is there enough light? Is there too much tension? This all makes us who we are and how we respond to the world.
Woman is an Element
Now that we see that we are so much more than just a physical body, we can understand how magical we are. And a woman is another element of nature. It is a very subtle and a very sensitive device. Once it is finely tuned, it can help us understand what needs to be changed to improve things. And for that, we should be constantly filled with energy. If we only spend this energy and always hustle, it will create a great danger for us. This is not the way to live.
Set yourself free often. Just let yourself freely be. Woman is a Nature herself. It is very important to stay in contact with it. Learn to communicate with all four main elements, learn to stay in contact with them, learn how to let them cleanse you.
When you stand on the Earth, give it your tension. And let yourself receive a warm and liquid flow of energy back from the Earth, feeling how it fills you with confidence and stability.
When you sit by the fire, let the Fire burn out your fears and doubts. And let it fill you with power and trust. Also, let the Fire warm up your internal Water and bring up your passion.
When you see a bird flying in the sky, connect with it internally. Try to feel the flow of air that the bird is on, spread your own wings and let your burdens fall. Let the Air will you with inspiration and lightness.
Find water and put your hands in it. Wash your face or wash your whole self in it, feeling it against your skin. Enjoy the sensations of water drops on your body. Let the Water fill your every cell and wash away all the failures, pains and worries, all the sadness.
The Alchemy of Femininity
This is the magic of womanliness – to be able to notice it all and to value these moments. Whether it is a soft velvety sunset, or a tender young light of the sunrise. Or whether it is birds’ singing, or a drop of rain that got trapped on the leaf. Whether it is a sensation of the silk touching your skin or a chocolate melting in your mouth. Maybe it is a nice conversation, inspiring and uplifting. Maybe it is a stranger who tells you something. Try to find pleasure and joy in all of these things. This is the alchemy of femininity – to turn every ordinary thing into something extraordinary.
This allows you to look at this world in awe no matter the age. This gives you the opportunity to keep the childish innocence and stay surprised by everything, enjoying every single moment. You can rediscover the world again and again, creating a state of heaven on earth. Gathering the nectar of every moment and feeling its taste, staying in sync with the world and feeling how it fills you with its tiny little streams of life.
Once your are filled with it all, filled with energy, this is when you can change the quality of life to the next level. It can happen then and only then, not when you are needy and depleted. When we are filled with this beautiful magical powerful energy, it wants to come out and it wants to transform. That is the true magic of the woman. Transforming the outside with the inside. This is her sacred initial ability – to literally create something that was not there before, using her desires and dreams.
To be a woman is truly a blessing and a greatest gift.