Last time we talked about our feminine dignity and what it is all about. Now I’d like to share some questions that we can all ask ourselves, as women, when we want to revive it back and have a renaissance of ourselves. There are certainly many ways out there to heal it, and asking these questions would be a great first step.
We will go from one chakra, or energy center, to the next one, because it is easier to organize it and to make a whole picture in the end.
Okay, let’s jump in.
Physical center (Muladhara chakra)
When a woman feels safe and protected on this level, she is completely content and comfortable. She has enough of everything and does not deprive herself of things. She eats enough, she doesn’t blame herself for eating something wrong or for eating too much. She has enough of clothes to wear and enjoys it. She has her own clean and cozy home place.
Questions to ask to check on dignity here:
✤ Do you have your own little corner where no one comes in without your permission?
✤ Do you feel completely comfortable at home?
✤ How do you feel when you come back home at the end of the day? And how do you feel when you wake up?
✤ Are you happy with your clothes? Do they match what you feel inside?
✤ How do you feel about eating food that you eat? Do you feel like you have too much of it or not enough? How do you feel about yourself in those moments? Do you feel guilty or upset? How can you find balance between your body, food and your feeling of joy?
Sexual center (Swadhistana chakra)
Dignity in this center means that a woman knows very well what can bring her happiness and pleasure, what fills her up and recharges her. And she lets herself have it from time to time. She does not wait for somebody else to let her do it or allow her to indulge herself.
Questions to ask here:
✤ Do you enjoy being by yourself, with yourself?
✤ Have you found your balance between work time and leisure time?
✤ Do you have place for pleasure in your life?
Will center (Manipura chakra)
Woman accepts freely compliments, gifts and attention on this level of healthy dignity. And what is most important, she does not feel like she “owes” something later in return.
Questions to ask here:
✤ How do you react when someone compliments you? What do you feel and think of yourself and others in those moments?
✤ How do you feel when someone gives you a gift? What thoughts do you have at that moment?
✤ Do you feel like you owe something after these moments, even if you don’t want to do it? Do you ever notice that when you say “But I have to”, it disturbs the natural flow of exchange between two people?
Heart center (Anahata chakra)
Dignity in the center of the Heart presents itself in the form of genuine self-love, regardless if a woman stays busy or not. Love to self does not go away no matter what.
Questions here to ask:
✤ How do you treat yourself when you are energized and ready to do all the things?
✤ And how do you treat yourself when you have no energy for anything? Are you able to handle it fully or you just want to run away from this feeling?
✤ How do you live through the moments of non-doing? What do they give you that is valuable?
Throat center (Vishuddha chakra)
Woman is well aware of her own wishes and desires, her own needs. And she is also able to hear them, acknowledge them and act upon them to fulfill.
Questions on this level to ask:
✤ Are you able to answer a question about what you really want, confidently? How realistic are you about it?
✤ What makes you get out of bed every morning: a want or a need? If it is mostly “needs”, it is a good idea to think about what can bring back your “wants” here, and balance it out with your “needs”.
✤ Are all your desires for the sake of having them, or are they there for their satisfaction and fulfillment?
Intuition center (Adjna chakra)
In this center a woman with enough dignity is ready and comfortable that someone else can do something useful for her. She is not in a hurry to do everything herself for others.
Questions to ask:
✤ Do you often act as a savior? Do you want to save people?
✤ Do you ever feel like you are pulling it off on your own all the time? What people and what situations are usually involved in this? How do these people treat you?
✤ What do you feel when someone close to you does something for you, and you don’t? What do you think of yourself in those moments?
Wisdom center (Sahasrara chakra)
On this level of dignity, woman is very deeply connected with the Universe. She knows about her own gifts, abilities and her woman’s nature.
Questions to ask from this center:
✤ Do you feel yourself a part of this world?
✤ Do you feel yourself a valuable part of this world?
Use these questions to either meditate or journal. They are very simple but they can help understand where are you now. They will help you take a glance at yourself and realize the moments when your dignity goes away, and something opposite comes instead – self-pity, feeling of being miserable and worthless.
The point of the matter here is to really find that balance, and find out what brings back your power. What is it, that makes you feel whole again, and like yourself? What is it that makes you feel like you are worth it all and much more? And by going through all of that, to be able to gain your experience and knowledge, and to find your own balance between “doing” and “being”. And to remain woman full of dignity no matter the situation.
Photo by Caique Silva