1. A Real Woman does not chase happiness. In fact, she doesn’t chase anything at all. Everyone is chasing something all the time. It is the most popular thing to do and the most silly one. We all chase better tomorrow, better future, better year. Real Woman doesn’t do this. She flows together with the flow of life, while always staying in present. Today is the most exciting and the most important time for her. Her one day is her whole little life. And she doesn’t wait for the future, for Monday, for New Year, for when The One comes, for many other things.
2. To be a Real Woman is a true privilege that only you yourself can allow it. A Real Woman values a lot the fact that she was born a woman and sees it as something very precious. She not only knows she is a woman, she feels she is a woman. To be a Real Woman for her is not a challenge or obstacle that she needs to overcome all her life. It is a real gift and a blessing for her. A Real Woman cultivates femininity on all levels: internally – with sensations, thoughts and feelings, and externally – with body, clothes and behavior.
3. A Real Woman has her own rhythm. When you live too slow, you can barely feel that you live. When you live too fast, you barely have time to feel your life at all. Every one of us has her own rhythm. A Real Woman knows her rhythm very well and follows it all her life. So she avoids extremes and does everything in moderation. A Real Woman regulates her rhythm how and when she wants, thus making circumstances adjust to her. She lives her life the way she wants it, and she doesn’t lose the taste for her life. So she always knows what she does and why, and never rushes or competes.
4. A Real Woman is always a priority for herself. She knows very well that making herself a priority is not selfish or cynical. She knows that an extreme desire to take care of others all the time is simply a fear of living one’s true life. For a Real Woman, her own life interests her more than anything. She never loses a value for her own life and her personal space. She can still support and help others. And she does it not because she is afraid to disappoint someone but because helping is her true authentic desire. She never says “yes” when her heart tells her “no”. She always listens to herself and trust her feelings.
5. A Real Woman does not need a certificate or a record-book to be validated. She threw it away long time ago because she has her own directions and guidance now. If they doesn’t match the expectations of others, she doesn’t worry about it. She allows other people to evaluate herself as much as they want because she knows it is impossible to please everyone. Not only it is impossible, but is also silly. She takes care of herself and improves herself but not for others. She does it because of the love for herself.
6. A Real Woman has grown out a Good Girl. A Good Girl obeys her parents. Her only goal in life is to please everyone and have an approval from others. She wants to please even when her own desires go against it. A Good Girl’s life motto is “I have to” or “I don’t have to”. She rarely asks herself what she really wants. A Real Woman left this Good Girl behind, together with her desire for approvals. It doesn’t mean that a Real Woman doesn’t care. She simply doesn’t prove anything to anyone, especially if it goes against her desire.
7. A Real Woman does not fight with difficulties. She bypasses them. Fighting is for warriors. A Real Woman will never pretend to be a superhero. If there is an obstacle on her path to her goal, she will never confront or fight it. Because she knows if she does it, she will only make things worse. A Real Woman will take her time to find out if there are other ways to go about it, or maybe to use it as a stepping stone. She knows very well that every obstacle has its weak spot. That is why her main strategy is not strength but flexibility. And an obstacle is not an enemy but another riddle to resolve. A Real Woman knows that every difficulty has its own resolution, and she also knows to choose the right place and the right time for her actions.
8. A Real Woman is never into drama. If you look at her, you can never say “She is surviving”. You can never say if she is tired or too busy. Because she knows that even when she has a lot of things to do, she always finds time for herself, to have rest, recharge and look beautiful again. She never pretends to be a victim or acts as one. She knows that circumstances are only difficult if you chose to look at them this way.
9. Solitude for a Real Woman is a true gift. Whenever she has periods of time when she is alone, she values and loves it a lot. She doesn’t have a need to drag strangers into her life just to avoid loneliness. To be alone with herself is a true blessing. Loneliness for her is never about failure and she knows that it doesn’t say anything about her. Her time alone is the best time to replenish her energy, to fill herself with peace and deepness. She is interested in her own self so much that always spends her time alone with great pleasure and joy.
10. A Real Woman loves her age always. She lives in her true real age, accepting it and taking all its advantages. So she never thinks that it is too late or too early to do anything at her age. Because she knows very well that this type of thinking is a way to escape and hide from fears for those who use it. A Real Woman can and does anything she wants anytime. She takes full advantage of her every age, so she never has a feeling or regret that she missed the opportunity. This means that instead of trying to be 20 years younger, she is just being herself. She is not trying to be someone who she is not, because she knows that every age has its beauty, sexuality and charm.
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