Clean Speech As Woman’s Spiritual Practice

For women the ability to speak is one of the most important things and something that is vitally needed. There are two ways to do express yourself in this world – speech and action. And for a woman it is much easier to do it through speech. You can either do it yourself or you can ask someone (or inspire someone) to do it for you. It is a true art, not everyone knows how to do it right.

Why it is important for a woman to know this art? Physically, women are generally not as strong as an average man, so it is easier to inspire someone to do something or simply ask for help than to do it yourself. On the contrary, for a man it is much easier to actually do something (often without even saying much or anything at all) than to ask for help or talk about it.

In Buddhism it is believed that the main source of energy leakage is through speech. Christian religion teaches that it does not matter what goes in your mouth, what matters is what goes out. In Vedic knowledge empty talks are called Prajalpa (or Idle Speech). And it is exactly the main obstacle in a spiritual and material progress. We judge someone first by the way they speak.

For a woman unclean and rude speech is one of the ways to loose Shakti, her subtle mystical energy. When she swears, talks in an unpleasant way she looses her luck and attract negative scenarious in life. Vedically speaking, rude unclean speech is called the sister of death. Let’s see why it is so.

There are three ways to express yourself through talking: in a pleasant clean way (Sattvic way), in a passionate way (Rajasic way) or in an ignorant and rude way (Tamasic way). The latter way happens when we use swear words and talk rudely, and this way is usually the way of destruction. Tamas means death or decay, so by talking rudely we literally destroy our life around us little by little. We as women also destroy a certain magical aspect of our power that we have received at birth from Mother Nature. But let’s talk about all three in detail.

Sattvic Speech

This kind of speech happens when a woman is living on a higher level of self-awareness, consciousness and spirituality. A woman like that always speaks the truth in a pleasant way, using kind words. Every word is used intentionally and every words brings harmony into this world. There is a lot of harmless humor in her speech, and often this humor is about herself. People like in general are almost always healthy and happy. When someone says something negative or bad about someone else, or they see something like this women with Sattvic Speech may even feel physically ill. Because they live on such level where it feels like they were physically dumped some sewage on.

Rajasic Speech

Rajas is passion. Women who live with Rajas are usually extremely sensitive towards any criticism. And they love to talk for a long time about money, sex, financial wealth, politics, shopping, themselves, gossiping and judging others. You probably think it is most of women or people in general. And you will be right, because most of the people currently live in a very Rajasic state. Our whole world, especially Western part of it, definitely live Rajasic live. Usually such women speak very fast, humor can be vulgar and often connected to sex. And usually at the beginning of such conversation they feel energy boost and satisfaction but then towards the end of it there is a big depletion and the feeling of disgust. And the higher your level of consciousness is, the bigger the feeling. This kind of speech leads to degradation on all levels.

Tamasic Speech

Women and people who live in Tamas, or ignorance, have their speech full of cussing and swearing of all kinds, judging, threats, insults and pretensions. Every word is full of anger and hatred. When a person like that opens the mouth it feels like the space around gets filled with unpleasant odor. That is why if someone says something good about someone else to this person, they can get sick.

People like this usually provoke others, consciously or subconsciously, trying to evoke the emotion of anger or irritation, jealousy or guilt in others since they are attuned energetically to these types of vibrations. They feed off of lower destructive emotions. They live in illusion, they have dark sense of humor. Usually they get a lot of lessons and hardships from the Universe. They often have psychological issues and illnesses. And you really should not be around them physically, and especially involve in a conversation with them.

It is seldom that one person lives only on one level, typically it is a mix of two of them. And it can also change depending on three factors.

Three Factors Affecting Our Speech

+ Society/people around us

+ People that surround us at work or during our leisurely activities.

+ Places

+ Bars, casinos, night clubs are not the places where you can hear Sattvic speech. If the place is full of Rajas or Tamas, passion or ignorance, the speech will be of those two qualities consequently.

+ Time

Time period between 9 pm and 2 am is called the time of ignorance, or Tamasic time. This is why at this time usually you want to visit some place of Tamasic quality (listed above), or watch a Tamasic movie, have conversations of Tamasic nature, or maybe Rajasic nature. This is not the time to make important decisions, that is why so many people regret it in the morning. It is not a coincidence that everything in nature is fully asleep at that time.

Our Speech is a Channel

The way a woman expresses herself is her own personal channel where she takes her power from. So her voice plays an important role. So if the voice is too harsh, too scratchy, unhappy, too loud, depressive, with complaints these are all of the things that destroy her mystical power. This is how she loses her energy and power, and her ability to influence other people. She loses her ability to maker her desires and wishes come true.

That is why it is so important to understand and realize the power of her speech and voice. She needs to learn and listen how it sound to her from aside, like if she was someone else who is listening to her. What does that other person hear? You can make a recording of your own voice and listen, analyze it. Would you enjoy talking to someone with this voice? Your voice has a message in it. What kind of message does it carry – that of anger or hurt? These destructive elements strongly affect you and your energetics.

Avoid Swearing And Cussing

This is a very important quality. In Vedas it says that Goddess Lakshmi lives on the tip of your tongue. And so our speech defines our destiny in many ways. So rude speech not only shortens our life but it also takes away our luck. It is important to learn to use this tool properly as speech can lead us to higher worlds and planets, and also to lowest ones. It can also frees us up if we use our speech to help others.

That means that we can use our speech as a Spiritual practice and serve the Highest Truth with it. This will then frees us up from the existence in the relative reality of the everyday material life and brings luck to everyone who surrounds us and who comes into our life. We will have luck coming to us on all levels too. So in a relationships we also should understand that rude or violent speech, and a speech that brings sadness or is destructive to a spirit makes us what’s called in Vedic astrology of demonic nature, as opposed to divine.

A speech should not be an act if violence, whether you are actually swearing or just speak in a disrespectful or demeaning way. It is one way when we are in the middle of a very stressful situation and something might slip out accidentally. And another way when it is a habit and a pattern. Then it also becomes a way of getting attention, or a way to influence others. Which becomes more of a demonic nature behavior, not divine.

Two Parts Of Speech

So, we have two main parts that make our speech unique and more feminine. They are:

• what we say
• the way we say it

Unpleasant Speech Signs

Let’s summarize and look at factors that make our speech unattractive and unpleasant (less divine, more demonic if you will):

• Swearing and cussing. This is a no brainer and should be avoided. The cleanliness of our speech is no less important than the cleanliness of our clothes. If you want, experiment and try to notice what you feel after you say a swear word. If you are especially intuitive, you may feel a dirt on a subtle level that you will want to wash away.
• Judgments and arguments. They also bring unseen dirt that you may feel right after. If you try to avoid it all just for a few days you will notice the difference.
• Talking too fast and all of the time. This is very draining for both participants – the talker and the listener. A lot of energy gets spent during so much talking, and this energy can be used on something else. It doesn’t meant you need to stay silent all of the time (although you may definitely try practicing Mauna or Vow of Silence as a Spiritual practice just to see the results, or participate in Vipassana retreat that is so deeply transformational on all levels).
• Speaking in a too complicated manner. I know it may sound unusual, but using a lot of complicated words or speaking in a way that shows how incredibly smart or educated you are is not needed unless you are at a job interview. In fact, it suits men more than women because the less the woman talk the more It creates the fleur of mystery about her. And the more she talks, she more she pushes away all of the men around her, because that equals “complicated”.

Okay, now that we know all of the negative sides of it, what makes our speech pleasant? In other words, what can you try as a spiritual practice of clean speech?

Pleasant Speech Signs

+ Learn to speak slower. It can be hard for those who speak fast, but learning to do it brings a lot of advantages including bringing your own thoughts in order, slowing down your entire life and taking away stress.

+ Learn to speak on the exhale. Practice it at home a bit, in front of the mirror. You will sound very different.

+ Learn to speak with your abdomen, not your chest or throat. How to know which one you use more? If after a long conversation your throat is scratchy, you are super tired and cannot use your voice anymore, you used your throat. Ideal scenario is when your vocal cords are relaxed, and sound is coming out of the abdomen (added bonus – it makes your voice warmer and smoother like honey and deeper, sensual).

+ Learn to breathe with your belly. I’ve said it many times before here. Learning to breathe with your tummy instead of your lungs and chest  will bring so many benefits. This kind of breathing will help you have the right rhythm of speech, and the right tone of voice.

+ Learn to speak less. Do not repress yourself or shut yourself up, but learn to understand where you can stay silent rathen than talkative, and choose to observe and listen instead. Smile, while you are doing it 

+ Get rid of bad habits. Smoking, alcohol and cussing all influence you in a negative way, as well as your voice. If you smoke, all the mentioned above won’t make any sense.

+ Learn to speak more pleasant things and compliments. The way it works (look up the experiment with Water and frequencies) is basically your voice will start matching the vibrations of positive, pleasant words and it will sound like honey.

+ You can try taking some singing lessons, or simply sing yourself more often. Make sure to pick beautiful, calming melodic songs. Ideally, choose some spiritual songs like mantras or prayers. It will truly cleanse your voice.

+ Relax. Relax and relax again. And relax that belly. Relax your face and shoulders. Do a lot of relaxation exercises. It’s all connected so the more you relax your body, the deeper your voice is and the slower your speech is. Can you imagine yourself screaming and yelling after 2 hours massage? Didn’t think so.

Try them all or some of them and you will see changes happening very soon.