Spiritual Causes of Pregnancy Complications – Part 1.

Why Look Beyond the Medical Explanation for Pregnancy Loss

Following my extremely popular article on “Female Diseases – Spiritual Causes“, I decided to write about the same topic but about spiritual meaning of miscarriage, since this is now also part of my personal, practical experience.

Just like with regular health symptoms, every dis-ease or complication in pregnancy has its own spiritual or metaphysical meaning. Today we will go through various such complications with one main question in mind:

“Why did your baby not want to stay with you?”

If you found this article or felt the title resonate with you, it may mean your baby’s soul had already come to you once before but left, for some unknown reason. Today, we will hopefully find your reason, so you can draw conclusions, accept the situation, and decide what to do next.

Understanding Why a Baby’s Soul May Choose Not to Stay

There are always very real reasons for spiritual meaning of miscarriage and why a baby decides not to stay. There was something in you or your situation that the baby did not want to accept, so he or she chose to leave. Even if the pregnancy ended very early — at 2–3 weeks — a baby always carries an important message for the parents.

It’s also important to understand that this can mean you were unknowingly pregnant and simply started your period, which seemed like a slightly delayed menstruation but was in fact an early miscarriage. If you suspect this might have been your case, please contact me — we can work on it together.

The main subject today will be recurrent miscarriage and why this happens to a woman. This is a lesson your baby wants you to understand — and it will repeat again and again until you receive the message (just like with life in general).

Just like with everything in our beloved body, which is our best friend and always directs attention to what needs healing (rather than being our enemy, as we often think), pregnancy complications follow the same principle

 Soul Contracts and Baby’s Choices

Before a baby decides to be conceived or born, all of the participants — the baby, you, and your partner — have already made a soul contract about how it will happen and how events will unfold. On a subtle soul level, everyone already knows what and why it is happening.

A baby always chooses parents, their age, location, ethnicity, life circumstances, everything. This means there is no one to blame, and it is nobody’s fault.

Of course, it’s hard to understand and accept this if you are still emotional and actively going through grief. If this is where you are now, I invite you to come back to this article later, when you are calmer. Your mind will process it differently and help you see more clearly what is happening and what needs to be done.

Spiritual Reasons IVF May Not Work

If you have repeated failures with IVF, it is often because you actually do not need it. Instead, you may need deep self-healing work to conceive naturally.

Although IVF is a popular and sometimes necessary procedure today, it can also be a way to “trick” Mother Nature, forcing pregnancy despite the underlying circumstances that are preventing it. So, there are reasons why pregnancy doesn’t happen naturally. And our task is to figure them out, which will most likely help with other health issues (yours or your partner), so it is a win-win.

IVF is a shortcut that doesn’t truly resolve the core issue. It’s the easier route compared to the deeper, often longer-term inner work.

If you are in this situation, first understand your reasons (keep reading), and then consciously invite your baby’s soul into a space of love, inside and around you. When love is the carrier for the baby’s soul, the baby comes willingly, rather than being forced into the body.

Think of IVF as a “stork trap.” If the stork doesn’t want to come, you trap it — but is that how you want your baby to arrive? Usually, love is the carrier for the baby’s soul and when a soul doesn’t “stick,” it means this particular soul is not destined to stay with you.

Three Main Emotional Causes of Pregnancy Complications

There are three main psychological causes of recurrent miscarriages:

1. Lack of Resources

2. Stress and Its Silent Impact

3. Deep-Seated Fears and Beliefs

Lack of Resources 

If we look at metaphysical or psychosomatic causes, the best analogy is the main safety rule on an airplane:

“Place the oxygen mask on yourself first before helping small children or others.”

That means if you don’t help yourself first, both you and your child may not survive. If you put a mask on yourself and have enough oxygen, then you can help both you and your baby.

If a woman cannot get pregnant, she is “suffocating” — lacking vital resources.

While basic needs such as food, shelter, and clothing may be met. But the main resource many women now lack is love.

Pause for a moment and reflect: Which resources were you lacking when your baby left you — or never came?

It is important to understand that babies even as embryos are incredibly resilient. Once it starts, life fights really hard to stay alive and keep growing. So if it stops, it means the mother’s condition — psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, and possibly physically — was extremely critical.

Stress and Its Silent Impact

A lot of a woman’s stress comes from her job. It can also come from within the family — emotional, physical, or sexual abuse, aggression, tension, sometimes so normalized that it goes unnoticed.

If a woman grows up in such an environment, the constant background stress accumulates over years and becomes a long-term chronic stress. She may conceive, but there is often a clear lack of love in her life. The stress intensifies when she deeply wants to keep the pregnancy — and if something triggers more stress during pregnancy, it becomes the final tipping point, and the baby decides to leave.

Deep-Seated Fears and Beliefs

Fear can also be a constant background in a woman’s life without her even noticing. It may be fear of losing a job, identity, or relationship — all of which can unconsciously feel “more important” than the baby.

Ask yourself: If you fear losing your career after having a baby, is your career worth more to you than your child? Why do you want to get pregnant then?

Often, pregnancy triggers fears because of the image of pregnancy you carry.

Close your eyes and say out loud: “I am pregnant.”
What do you feel? Write it down immediately.

Write everything that you feel or see as soon as you say it. Often times the negative image of pregnancy has many parts to it. And it prevents the pregnancy from ever happening or continuing.

Negative Images of Pregnancy

They often include:

• Seeing it as a burden

• Feeling shame

• Fear of losing control

• Fear of congenital defects

• Fear of labor and birth

• Your own past experiences

• Stories from others

• Warnings from doctors

These mental pictures create real barriers. Many are inherited from your family’s attitudes toward pregnancy, especially the women before you. Maybe other women in your family would talk about it as a big inconvenience. As something that changed the life of your mom or grandmother to something difficult or negative. Perhaps it came from your friends and their experiences with it. Remember: if you have never been pregnant or given birth, these fears are just projections. There is no way for you to know how it unfolds in reality. 

If a woman feels shame about sex, sees it as sinful, or has never learned that conception can and should be a pleasurable, loving act — she creates an unsafe energetic ground for the baby’s soul. This is not a proper ground for the baby’s soul to come.

Similarly, if pregnancy becomes a matter of controlling every detail — through endless tests and ultrasounds “just to be sure” — it comes from the head that is completely disconnected from the body and the natural trust in its wisdom. The head does not believe that the body is fully equipped and capable to maintain and grow a whole human from just two cells from a divine spark of light. This divine spark does not need our control, it knows what and when should happen with the embryo. Just let the control go. This is something you won’t need for a long time even after you have the baby. Just as you don’t control a plant as it grows, you can’t micromanage a pregnancy into perfection. You can only observe it and trust.

Ancestral Pattern

Fear of birth can also be ancestral — passed down from women who experienced difficult deliveries. While birth is hard work, hence the word “labor”, it is what women are biologically designed to do. The negativity comes from inherited stories, not from the truth of your own body’s capabilities. It can be so strong that sometimes when a woman is already pregnant, she can panic a few weeks before labor. It is important to self-educate yourself before you even become pregnant. Your own reaction to the very first confirmation – two lines in positive pregnancy test – ALREADY affects the baby. Already then, can you imagine? 

If your first reaction was fear, how does the baby feel? If you think that it doesn’t “feel” anything because there is no baby, I have to tell you that you need to self-educate yourself even more. In all of the ancient teachings it says that baby’s soul chooses parents long before it actually incarnates. It is already in mother’s energetic field several years before conception. And even if there is no actual physical body of the baby, the baby is already here. That is also why many same teachings like Vedas say that your child’s upbringing starts before birth. 

Personal Experience

During the energy healing sessions I can usually see such spirit babies, or souls of babies, who are around the mother, so it only proves it. Additionally I have my own personal experience. My very first time when I became pregnant was a moment full of fear and surprise. I was going to become pregnant soon and it was already on my mind, but I was not fully prepared physically yet and also mentally because when it happened I was in shock. And of course, just a few days later my period started, which looked like a normal period and I was only late by 2-3 days. So many women may not even know they already got pregnant, but that is an entirely different topic.

When you have such negative reactions and the baby sticks, then later on these kids have self-doubts whether or not they should even live, or that they are an obstacle to something. Often these are kids that are suicidal because that was the mood and the energy of the mother at the very beginning.

Recurrent Miscarriage

When miscarriage happens repeatedly around the same stage of pregnancy, fear often recreates the event. If the first loss was at 8 weeks, the next pregnancies may fail around that time — the body remembers. And a lot of the times, it is between week 4 and week 8.

This is difficult and can feel like a vicious cycle, but you can break it with deep inner work.

To be continued.