The time has come to talk about the next oriental feminine archetype that is Housewife. We have already covered the previous two of them: Girl and Lover, and I would encourage you to read about those two archetypes prior to reading about this one. It would make more sense and also, these archetypes follow chronologically the age and maturing of a woman. So it is good to observe and follow them in your own life and in the life of other women.
Let’s talk about Housewife and what this archetype corresponds to.
Element Earth – “Housewife”
Woman comes into this state naturally after being in the state of the Lover. It happens especially brightly if children become a part of her life. So she becomes a wife and a mother. This archetype is very important for a woman. If it is present, there will be a generous and reliable man in her life, who also needs a wise and strong woman.
This feminine archetype is about care, warmth and calmness.
Housewife state of mind is everything mother, wife, and home. The main qualities of energy here are love, care, and blessing of the loved ones. This is the woman that can otherwise be called a hearth keeper. This archetype is also about conserving the energy, so that she can then nourish herself, her family, her spouse, and her whole beautiful world. She guards her treasures like mother Earth. This is why this is the element of Earth. So this feminine archetype preserves and abounds.
What She Gives To a Man
The Housewife archetype provides stability most of all. She also gives energy for her family, including her man. She generously brings tranquility, acceptance, coziness, and comfort. Such a woman also gives spiritual support, compassion, and sympathy. The secret here is that for career advancement and for success, a man needs stability at home. He should know that everything is established and fine at home, so he does not have to spend his energy and efforts on changing that.
However, sometimes a woman can get stuck too deep in this state. That is when a man may start looking for an affair. However, it usually does not last long since he tends to come back to his wife where there is comfort, care, and home.
What She Receives From a Man
To put it simply, a woman in this archetype receives pretty much everything: respect, loyalty, the status of a wife, happy motherhood. And while it may not look like “everything”, these are in fact the most basic and the most nourishing things for a woman. On some deep level, she knows how she feels when she has all that. And that is why most, if not all, women are intuitively always looking for it.
Balanced Lover Archetype
The energy of a Housewife archetype starts coming out in a woman when she sets an intention for herself to keep herself full. The Housewife is a full state of everything, it is about living in plenty. It is satisfaction, resourcefulness, harmony, it is when everything works smoothly. Additionally, when this archetype is balanced in a woman, she is naturally attracted to the cleanliness and purity in everything, as well as organization and order: of things, thoughts, and actions. So when you see a woman with a balance Housewife energy in her, you would naturally feel safe and comfortable near her. You would feel that in this place where she is nothing bad can happen, everything is stable, safe and you can relax here.
Lack of a Housewife
When we don’t have enough of this energy, we feel instability in life – in our career, personal life, family, relationships with colleagues, children, and parents. We also don’t know what happens in the future so we are scared of it. Generally, we just don’t feel grounded enough, not stable enough so there is a constant feeling that something is about to happen.
This also means that when we feel all of that, we are not a priority to ourselves. Because a real woman with a balanced Housewife energy knows that she cannot be tired and exhausted all the time, she knows that her source inside of her is the main thing. Everything is based on it and depends on it, so it is always a priority.
Too Much of a Housewife
The excess of this energy shows best when a woman turns into this character without much gender or sensuality. She becomes a functional and practical human being who is trying to fix everything and anyone. If we talk about physical appearance here, the most prominent would be when a woman cuts her hair short and starts wearing only comfortable and practical clothes – because those are the only things she cares about. Of course, that means she is no longer a Girl, not at all a Lover and no other archetypes too (Queen and Priestess). She is this convenient mother of all, or grandmother, and that is the only side that everyone perceives her from. As you may have realized, to fix that, you need to counteract with the archetype of a Girl.
How To Find Your Housewife Archetype
If you feel like you are lacking the energy of a Housewife or it is out of balance, the best thing you can do is to start working using your hands. Plan to do something for a week, and you can start with a kitchen. Turn it into a space that has plenty of everything, “the living in plenty” vibe. It is important to understand here that it is not about just cleaning. It is also organizing everything in a nice and pretty way. You can take every utensil, every plate and every mug and arrange them in a beautiful way.
Another way of tapping into your Housewife energy is arts and crafts. Do something for yourself, like a piece of jewelry or a decoration. All of the grounding practices are also very good – walking barefoot, touching the earth, sitting on the earth, gardening. The important thing to understand here is to realize that you need to fulfill yourself internally to become internally rich. Just keep doing things that make you feel full from the inside. Keep doing them until the moment it stays there all the time. You will feel this fullness that brings you a sense of comfort and stability.
That is when this golden, precious energy of abundance will start pouring out of you like a warm, golden honey. It means you have reached the point of fullness when you cannot hold it inside of you anymore and you need to start sharing and giving. The Giver is basically the Housewife. This state of energy only comes when a woman knows how to manage her energy, how to sustain, and how to not waste it. As well as how to distribute it evenly on all things without feeling depleted.
Another interesting and important quality of a feminine archetype of a Housewife is the ability to take over things. Whatever comes into her life, she would always find a place for it easily. And no matter how many things or people come into her life. All of them coexist peacefully and in harmony because of this quality. Everyone has their own place and enough energy, whether it is a new friend or a new hobby. While at the same time this archetype is also rather picky and keeps every space very clean and organized. There is simply no place for garbage in there. Every source of garbage gets identified quickly and easily. Things get reused or recycled because her way of thinking is this: “My house, my planet, my feelings, my choices – all of that should be clean”.
So, two main things that help you cultivate your Housewife archetype is to share, and to create purity around you.
In the next article, we will be discussing the element of Metal that is a feminine archetype of a Queen.