How To Stay Feminine During Conflict

If you are into femininity, or even if you are not (yet 😉 ), you may have thought about how to stay a woman during stressful situation or a conflict. Unfortunately, in our modern world, where women have to be actively involved in career other than their own business or family, and have to face difficult situation, eventually they switch to the male polarity of energy. In other words, they turn into men.

Woman in Man’s World

For most of them this is the only way to survive in the world, full of men and ruled mainly by man. Whether we want it or not, our society is very much patriarchal still. However, being a woman giving us a perfect opportunity to handle these situations with much more elegance and grace than we could thought of.

Next time you find yourself in a stressful situation, whether at work or not, in a conflict or fighting of some sort, you can still stay feminine. You can still stay a woman and act in a very wise and also productive way. Here are some secrets on how to do that. I really encourage you to try them, next time it happens.

Voice

Try not to raise your voice and stay calm from the inside out. Remember, you are a woman. That means you are able to be flexible, quiet and calm. This is what your Nature is, so it is only natural to apply that everywhere. If you do the opposite, raising your voice and running around or yelling at people, the conflict won’t be resolved. And you can in fact make the situation worse. By staying calm, you will actually disarm the person you are talking to.

Emotions

Try to bring up positive emotions. You can do it, believe me. You have the gift or creating and sharing love and happiness with everyone who is around you. So be generous and share it. In fact, the more you give it away, the more you receive in return. If the person you are talking to is a woman, give her a compliment, an honest one. And smile from your heart. If it is a man, maybe share a funny story with him.

Admiration

Another example when another person is a man. You have the ability to admire his qualities, personal or professional. Remember, that being a woman, you can be very flexible and adaptable. Just let yourself be that. You can adapt to almost every situation instantly. Men are usually straight forward in their judgments but also very on words of admiration. You won’t lose anything at all by telling him how talented or smart he is. And then you can add at the end: “I really admire your point of view. Would you let me share mine with you too?” Trust, when you try, the result may shock you.

No proving

Do not prove anything to anyone. Don’t do it ever in life, and especially in a conflict. You are a woman, and that means that unlike a man, you are free from any potential. That means you should not prove anything to anyone about what you are or you are not. This is not womanly. By doing so and engaging in this process, you simply lose your precious energy and create negative emotions. And those emotions will block the ability of another person to understand, relate and be considerate. This will become a dead end.

No judgements

Try to stay away from any personal judgments yourself, especially negative ones. Instead, share your feeling about the subject. Again, you are a woman, and feelings is the air that you breathe. So use them to direct the conversation where it is profitable for everyone involved. Stay away from saying something like “You are lying to me”. Instead, just share how you feel – “I feel cheated”. Do not say “You are a rude person”. Instead, say “I am very upset about the way you talk”. Saying this, you will show how you don’t like the situation but also you won’t hurt anyone.

Silence

Become silent first. I know, this one can be hard for all the active women out there. But believe, you can do it! If you find yourself loosing all control in a fight or arguments, the best thing you can do now is to become quiet and say no more. This way, you will keep the remainder of your energy, and won’t make the situation even worse.

Keep the important

The most important point. No matter the situation, keep the relationships. At work or at home, you have to make sure you keep the relationships because the situation will change, but people stay. Despite of all the arguments, show your hope for the good relationships in future. Also, because you are still a woman, it is your sacred duty to keep and protect what you have, including the relationships.

Remembering that you are a woman, not a person, is really a key to many things. Maybe, to everything. This changes your perspective and you act for the good of others and your own good no matter the situation. You have wonderful gifts and abilities to stay wise, calm, smart and charming. With all these gifts, you really don’t have to become a warrior to fight for your interests. By applying what you already have, you will reach much better, higher and brighter goals, while still keeping your sweet femininity and charm.

Stay wise, lovelies.

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