Recalling Femininity: Being a Modern Woman

Femininity is our true nature. It is something we are born with. This is why femininity cannot be bought or sold, as it is not a product. It can only be recalled: developed, sensed, rediscovered. This is a gift we have from Nature given to us as way to create on this planet. This is something we can genuinely and generously offer, if only we know and remember how.

Unfortunately, civilization and its “advantages” like mixed-gender education, started the whole mix up with femininity and masculinity. It is already proven many times that boys and girls perceive information differently as they are build differently. While we are equal with men, we are still very, very different. And it is important to remember that in every moment of our life. This is why long time ago schools had separate education for boys and girls. A result of mixed-gender education we can now see that girls are more masculine and boys are more feminine. That is when women start to forget what is femininity and what is their true nature.

Main Difference Of Masculine And Feminine

What exactly is the difference between boys and girls and their way of learning? To put it simply, boys represent Yang energy – energy of masculine, active, bright, strong. They represent persistence and competition. For this reason to be able to learn better, they need to compete all the time. This is when they can really learn something and grow. While girls’ way of learning is completely differently, with their Yan energy, feminine, passive, dark and soft – they simply look and copy.

What happens when boys and girls go to school together, now that we know these principles? Girls start copying boys’ behavior in school and start to compete with them. What’s worse is that women keep doing that even after school and the competition with men continues the whole adult life – I am also smart, I am also strong, I am also fast and bright and persistent and many other things. Neverending competition.

That is when women start thinking that there are no “real” men, whatever that is. “They do not exist anymore, because I am so strong and independent”. “It is hard for me to find a man like this”. “I cannot find anyone because they are all weak”. This is the main problem of almost all modern women. All of that simply because they forgot what their true Nature is, because long time ago, back at school, they were taught to copy boys.

Yin and Yang: Two Ways Of Living

Women now live with the principle of masculinity – from one achievement to another, whether it is a career, business, education. This is another example of behavior that we copy when the main way to survive is to compete. That is purely Yang principle of living, masculine way. Feminine way, Yin way, is actually from comprehension to comprehension, from one skill to another. In brief, masculine way is direct and on the surface, aims to expansion and conquering. The main idea is the goal, and then another goal, and another. Feminine way is indirect, and the main idea is the process itself, not the final goal. Feminine way aims to deepness and sensation in the now.

However, feminine way is a mystery for modern women. No one taught them that, not parents nor teachers. So they forgot. This is when our instinctual memory comes in handy. If we look at our two main objects that hang out around the Earth, Moon and Sun, we can understand better how to be. Sun is a big bright Yang star that constantly shares light and warmth, and works outside of itself. Moon, being a very Yin planet, constantly takes it on itself from the outside to the inside, and thus, creates a reflection of the light.

As a result, we now know that Sun is a masculine Yang principle that directs to the outside, and Moon is a feminine Yin principle that directs to the inside. Since femininity cannot be taught, but can only be remembered, there are several ways every woman can do daily to bring back their genuine, simple and magical nature of femininity, Moon nature, nature of deep and ancient essence.

How to remember lost femininity?

1. Accepting the nature of sexuality

Unfortunately, the term “sexuality” is being strongly misused right now, tabooed and banned in many different ways and forms. It is actually very sad. If we look at the origin of this word, we will find out that it simply refers to our sex, gender – whether we are a man or a woman. Sexuality is essentially a way of expressing our energy through this gender, since this is what we all do every moment of our life. It is how we manifest ourselves by being whether a man or woman. So basically, sexuality is our life. It is how we live everyday and how we do everything everyday, from working to cooking to creating. In this sense, sex as an act is simply one of many ways of self-expression.

In men and women this principle acts differently, since sexuality is a way of one or another gender to express oneself. This is exactly how we can use our sexuality to remember our feminine nature. We need to recall who we really are – women. Once we start doing it, we start to understand how to live and self-express in our own unique feminine Yin way, our own gender way. Because everything that we do so wonderfully in the modern world can be done very effectively in a feminine way – from making money to creating relationships.

2. Bodily connection

Feminine nature very closely connects to body as most of the things us, women, do we do through bodily sensations. However, again modern life disrupted our connection and most people think of the body as simply a vessel or a machine. We have an incredible amount of bodily tensions and blocks that we all store for years and years, carrying our memories from one decade to another. Our body is a miraculous tool that remembers everything and stores every memory in tissues that we did not express outside. Every emotion, every stress, every fear.

Great way to attain bodily connection again is to closely listen what does your body want and how. Every time you perform something using your body, pay close attention to what it does and how it wants to do it – let it do it. When you exercise – listen to what your body wants to do, when you do yoga – go with the bodily flow, when you dance – dance with the rhythm of your body.

3. Creativity

The ability to create anything, literally anything, is one of the ultimate feminine qualities. Female principle of living is living creatively. This is not necessarily about creating a piece of art. It can be in absolutely about everything in every moment – from making tea or dinner, to brushing your hair and taking shower, making your bed, walking, working or taking care of someone.

4. Awareness of self-value

This is something that we have also altered in many different ways in our modern life. Unfortunately, the image of a “right” woman or “true sexuality” is often one-sided and for some reason is considered to be true. However, it is not true because we are all very different and every single one of us have our way of expressing our femininity or sexuality or value. True sexuality or femininity is something that is expressed uniquely and genuinely by you and from you, not something that was copied from the magazine or a movie. Even though copying is how we learn 😉

The key here is to realize that you are unique, because there is no other woman like you in the world, there was no other woman like you in the world and there will be no other woman like you in the world. You are amazing, beautiful and priceless simply the way you are. Once we all understand that, we will start loving ourselves.

5. Respect of the masculine

Devaluing of men and masculinity is something that is very common nowadays as well, unfortunately. There are various reasons to why this is happening. Most often it comes from unsuccessful unions of our parents, where fathers leave family, or unsuccessful experience of first relationships. From this negative past we build our image of men, and start losing hope that real men exist. It works very simple: when we start devaluing the masculine within us, it manifests in the outside world as the absence of men or absence of strong masculine qualities in men. The best and most effective way to learn to respect the masculine is to LET HIM express his masculinity around you. Whatever he expresses around you is essentially what is happening inside of you. But that is another topic. Let him be who he is with you – a man.

6. Less thinking and more feeling

It may sound easy but we don’t always know how to do it. Well, the most simple way is to do this: every time there is a situation, ask yourself: “What do I FEEL right now?” instead of “What do I THINK about it?” Even when someone asks you, you can simply replace “I think…” to “I feel..” This will give your inner nature a key to step up and express itself. Feelings and bodily intuition never lie. This is a way of self-expression as women because our main domain of power is feelings and sensations. Our best qualities come from sensitivity and sensuality whereas men’s qualities come from the thoughts and ideas, mind’s domain.

Let us remember that femininity is not only about heels and lipsticks, as important as they are. It is also about the ability to feel, to sense, to intuit, to act from our deep feminine self, the ability to live consciously and do everything consciously. From eating to sleeping to breathing. That is what the forgotten femininity is. Every single thing that women do now can be done in a feminine way. We simply need to recall it.

Love and joy to you all ♥♥♥

 

Based on the Russian video “Woman of 21st century”