Spiritual Causes for Pregnancy Complications – Part 2.

Continuing with the pregnancy complications from my previous article. 

“Fight” Reaction Symptoms

Morning sickness / hyperemesis gravidarum

This is the “common” pregnancy symptom that many women have that can sometimes cause them to abort the baby because it is too strong to handle. Overall, morning sickness symptom is a deep inability to accept the baby and pregnancy. I say deep because consciously you may think that you want it, but deep inside it means that this baby brings a threat to a woman’s life in future. And a woman is afraid she won’t survive in future.

A lot of times if it is a first pregnant this is also a woman’s fear and her lack of control and understanding that there is something inside of her growing, on its own. Once you work on it and start feeling true love towards your baby, it will improve.

Uterine tone / increased tightness

It usually happens when there is stress and fear, but mostly stress that affects the mother, and thus the baby. Please assess your environment as even just a low-key background stress can influence a woman. Anxiety and worrying that are always there will affect your body even if you think it is okay.

“Flight” Reaction Symptoms

Miscarriage

It happens when a baby was growing inside and then at some point it just strops growing and leaves. So, it includes all kinds of miscarriages on all levels. Whether early or later, the underlying cause is often exhaustion and depletion. 

Fetal abnormalities incompatible with life / medical termination

It is the same type of symptom as miscarriage as it doesn’t really matter what was the reason that baby passed. Formal medical terminology, however you use it, is always just a consequence of an original reason which is always psychological.

The reason why it happens is because a woman is exhausted and drained. She doesn’t have any energy, a joy and happiness in life. It can be because she keeps working on a job that drains her. She keeps pushing and trying to help everyone else around her but herself, she is saving everybody around her. She “feeds’ everybody around her with herself and doesn’t have enough for her.

Another reason is ancestral and can be an unhappy ancestral scenarios of female ancestors. If a woman is unhappy in marriage, if she lives with a man she doesn’t love, having sex without her consent or desire, having dependency from husband. Or it can be a husband who is an alcoholic so she is playing a savior by pushing everything on her worn, which means she shows disrespect towards all men automatically.

And third reason is a fear of loneliness. Usually babies with congenital defects come to women who are very afraid to stay by themselves but at the same time are unable to build healthy relationships with men. So, in order to never stay alone, a woman subconsciously attracts a child who will be with higher needs so that it always depends on her and her care.

Overall, for both symptoms that means you live in a poisoned environment and there is not enough resource of love for a woman herself.

“Freeze” Reaction Symptoms

Missed miscarriage

This is a miscarriage that happens without a woman’s knowing about it, only for her to find out later. So, there is no actual miscarriage happening but the embryo stops growing. This is a symptom of a woman who has “missed” or frozen feelings. This is a woman who is wearing an armor and is in her head all of the time. She analyzes and thinks all of the time and her feelings are completely cut off. So she froze herself.

This happens when there was a stressful situation in a childhood when her as a child was unable to express her feelings one way or another. Losing a pet could be a very common situation like that. So, it was such a high level of stress that a little girl freezes all of her feelings. If someone left her in the kindergarten or school and forgot to pick her up, or someone else died or drowned. So she freezes.

Blighted ovum / chemical pregnancy / pregnancy edema
All of these symptoms are in one group because this means one thing. It means that a woman really wants everybody to know that she can be pregnant. She really needs the fact alone of her pregnancy and she needs to prove others that she can do it. So, it is not really about having a baby or becoming a mother, it is about just becoming pregnant.

So, when a woman says “we cannot get pregnant with husband!”, what does it say? She doesn’t say “I am unable to have a child” or “We are unable to become a mother and a father”. There is a big difference that is important to keep in mind and have a true intention to avoid such complications.

Ectopic pregnancy / blocked fallopian tubes

This is a symptom of a body that does not let the baby to come through. There is a lot of fear in tubes, the main one of which is to get pregnant at a wrong time. This kind of thinking usually starts when a young woman hears from her mother “Don’t get yourself in trouble” referring to becoming accidentally pregnant. Since usually this is the kind of things that young women hear, it impacts their thinking greatly and affects their ability to have a healthy pregnancy in future. This fear “sits” in their bodies on a cellular level and the body remembers, so you need to work on that.

Ectopic pregnancy means you really strongly want a baby but for someone else – for parent or society, when somebody keeps asking about it. So you want it just to check the box off. That is why happens as an ectopic pregnancy, because you need it in your HEAD, not in your BODY. So the baby comes because you called, but then it gets stuck because you have this great fear.

Do not remove your tubes unless it is life threatening. If you have only one tube and at least part of the ovary, you can definitely conceive a baby yourself still.

Late Miscarriage / Infant Loss

Late miscarriage is losing a baby in third trimester, and infancy loss is the death of the baby in the first year of life.

This usually happens when a woman is trying to use her pregnancy to avoid something else or to hide behind it. This is again a type of fear that you need to discover and understand. These are ways of your baby to bring you a special message, to understand this. If you need to do something in life, especially if it is your true calling and dream, and it is scary, you use the pregnancy as an excuse to avoid doing it. To resolve this, ask yourself: What would I be doing now if there was no baby? Usually, the answer is something very important to you deep inside. Because if you want to do something else and don’t want a baby, you will be perceived as “wrong” or “bad”.

Amniotic Fluid Imbalance

This is either not enough or too much of amniotic fluid. This fluid is water inside pregnant mother’s belly. Water in psychosomatics represent emotions. So, if there is Polyhydramnios it means a woman is unable to control and direct her emotions. There is too much of them because most likely there is some sort of internal conflict going on. Polyhydramnios is a strongest internal emotional conflict that a woman cannot “digest” well and process. So, she needs to understand what is this conflict and how to resolve it. What kind of conflict can happen when this baby is born? What needs to be resolved before this baby is born?

Oligohydramnios is when a woman doesn’t have enough space for the baby. This usually happens when a woman tries to plan the entire life of this baby before birth. And that is a wrong thing to do because you cannot possibly know the actual destiny of the child and decide for him or her, so the baby will not want to come out into some pre-decided destiny. You expect the baby to already have certain qualities or physical appearance and this might not be what the reality will be. So when this happens, and a woman is very rigid and does not let the baby be on their own, the baby decides to leave. There is not enough life here for him or her. The individuality is erased, and this happens most likely because the same exact thing the parent of this woman were doing to her.

Labor & Birth

Woman’s labor is the exact same as a woman herself. If a woman is stressed, then she will get stressed labor and birth. The labor will unfold the same exact way as the woman is internally and her emotional background state. How much does she enjoy her life? Or how happy and relaxed is she? How much does she love her body? And how well does she listen to it and trust that everything will unfold the way it should be?

Cesarian section

This is a very strong mother’s fear of labor and stress, or very often happens when a woman cannot wait to have the baby out. This is the case when a woman has an emergency C-section. But then again, emergency c-section happes usually from a very strong stress.

Perinatal Matrices

There is a concept of perinatal matrices of Stanislav Grof – the four stages of intrauterine and birth experience which profoundly influence personality development and psychological functioning.

According to the Grof’s matrix, when a c-section happens a baby does not go through a third matrix. Here is a description of all four of them:

1. Heaven, a baby is floating and growing in mother’s womb.
2. Labor begins but cervix is still closed. Contractions feel very uncomfortable and for the baby this is the exit from the heaven and suffering. Psychologically it is when you are being pressed from all sides but you think there is no exit.
3. Light at the end of the tunnel. When cervix opens up and together baby and a mother goes through the birth canal. During this stage a mother helps the baby to come out. So, a baby receives a cellular remembrance on this stage of maternal support. This can also explain why the epidural anesthesia is not a good idea. Because in this case a baby is working hard by themselves, with no support from the mother. Mother is just resting at that time. So deep inside psychologically a baby remembers that he or she is by themselves and there is no help anywhere. Further down the road this usually comes up on therapy sessions when a baby becomes an adult. The way nature intended labor is for a reason, every single step of it. C-section babies completely exclude this step.
4. Complete exit from the womb and disconnection from the umbilical cord. Symbolic death and rebirth. And a newly discovered responsibility, the baby is now separate from the mother and needs to provide things on their own (without having a direct supply from the womb and umbilical cord).

Gender Preference

Often times when women would have miscarriages they would discover later on that the baby they lost was the opposite gender than what they wanted. Unfortunately, this is often an outdated desire, often when people want a boy as a continuation of their family tree or last name. This however can cause losses of the baby whose gender is undesired. Up until now in Eastern countries girl babies are still considered a second-grade human being. Or even in Western countries father tend to want a boy and often influence girls in a negative way by just mere disappointment that their “son” is actually a girl.

Second Baby Loss

Often times after the first baby is born there is a situation with losses with a second baby. In this scenario most often the second baby and the loss point out to the mother that she needs to pay more attention now to her first born instead. And whatever she wants to give to her second baby she should first give to her first one. And often times when women strongly desire the second baby, their first one is abandoned to some degree, emotionally abandoned. In this case, a woman should first correct mistakes with her first child before having another one. And if a woman says she has so much love that she wants to share it with another baby, that means she truly needs to direct all this love to her firstborn now.

Guilt Over the Loss

For some reason a woman usually takes a full responsibility over the pregnancy loss. Besides the fact that she is already extremely stressed from the fact that she lost a baby, in addition to this she becomes responsible for the loss in front of the others – her partner, her relatives and other family remembers. If this is how you feel when you have a miscarriage or any loss, that means you truly put yourself last and do not value yourself at all. That means you are not important for yourself.

This is a serious psychological issue and you need to address it before trying for another baby. You need to remember and understand and there is no guilt, and there is no one to blame. All of you had an agreement prior to this situation – you, your partner and your baby, for everything to happen this way. And this situation is a very strong and loud signal from your baby that you are basically “dead”, that you are last on your own list and that motherhood comes first and you come last (and that these are two separate things). And that is why motherhood is not happening now because first you have to self-fulfil yourself before becoming a mother.

Connection to Your Mother’s Pregnancy

Often times women connect their own pregnancy with their mothers. To the point that they often start having morning sickness at the same time when their mother had it. Or when a mother had some stressful situation at a certain week or trimester, this also affects the daughter’s pregnancy. This is what you call an “ancestral memory”. This is also something that you should work on.

So, your main task now is to figure out what was your baby’s message when the baby decided to leave you. This message will be repeated again and again until you solve this riddle. Here is a very basic guide on what to work on already now so that you can build a better energetic (and even physical) terrain for the soul and embryo to come and stay. 

Brief Step-by-Step Guide

Step 1. Understand and remove the cause of previous losses:

Even if you had multiple miscarriages or loses at various stages of pregnancy, and from various reasons, there was the same outcome – the loss of pregnancy. This is your baby’s attempt to finally get to you and for you to remember your very important lesson here. So you need to take it seriously start your own investigation.

Step 2. Face your fears — especially those living in your belly as chronic tension:

Fear is your main source of stress. When a woman is stressed the belly is the first place in the body that gets tensed. And in fact, it can stay slightly tensed throughout the day and even life if a woman has a constant chronic stress in life as a background. Pay attention to your belly right now, it was most likely tensed and tucked in. When the belly is tensed, there is an increased uterine tone which squeezes the fetus inside and it leaves the body.

Step 3. Remove deep background stress from your life — the kind you’re so used to that you don’t notice it anymore:

That means not only to resort to some calming herbs or to walk more. It means to address an ongoing background stress that you don’t even notice it.  This is the kind of stress that accompanies you all of your life. For example, you are living with a man who is abusive to you – either emotionally or psychologically. And it may look or even feel “normal” because you had the same environment in your family where you grew up. But right now it doesn’t work anymore for you and it shouldn’t be okay for you, so the baby doesn’t want to come and stay. So there is no space for your love in your couple. There is no space for love inside of you for yourself.

Global removal of stress in your life means you need to sit down and thoroughly go through everything. And understand what doesn’t work in your life. Do you enjoy your job? Does it bring you positive emotions? Do you enjoy being home? Does it feel safe and peaceful or like a war zone? What is your relationship with your mother? Is your relationship healthy or toxic? What else is toxic in your life?

Step 4. Put yourself FIRST — always. Learn to say no:

Always and everywhere put yourself first. No matter what others tell you. Make a list of priorities, learn to say no and put yourself first (not deadline, not a partner, not a parent).

Step 5. Let your unborn babies go — emotionally and energetically — so you have the resources to welcome the next one:

It is very important to release your unborn babies on all levels, especially emotionally. Unreleased babies that were gone, even if it was a blighted ovum or a chemical pregnancy, still create a huge energetic hole. Abortion is an energetic connection, a miscarriage is an energetic connection. So you still have connection with baby’s soul on a subtle plane. And when you grieve your baby, you give it a tremendous amount of energy. So, you don’t have enough for the next baby. Miscarriage’s main reason is lack of resource to support that pregnancy, and there isn’t enough resource if a woman is still grieving her previous baby. I work with that during my energy healing sessions, too.